DON’T DO!

You’ve never been married before, so how are you supposed to know everything about weddings? There is no reason for a wedding question to go unanswered- and chances are, someone else has the same question or problem! Just ask. DO IT. 🙂  I’m always being asked, “What’s the correct way to do THANK YOU SPEECH?” The truth is, the only correct way to do it is how you want! Plus, it’s pretty common for brides to not follow some of the traditional wedding “rules” now. However, it does help to know what the “norm” is when making a decision, so see the previous “don’t”. In the end, it’s YOUR wedding and it should be the way YOU want it!

– Don’t be afraid to send an email!  Email is amazing- you can ask for information and get an answer without committing. When you email, ask the vendor you’re inquiring with what their average brides spend with them. Plus, both you and the vendor WIN when you do this, because you’re not wasting each others’ time if they are out of your budget!

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I never commented on things or asked questions. But if I had found the right forum or the right person to ask, then things would have been so much better.

Don’t think you have to adhere to special “rules”. Do what you want. Do what makes you happy. Don’t want dinner and want cocktails and appetizers instead? Do it! Don’t want to do a bouquet toss? Then don’t! 

Invitation Etiquettes

Every couple anticipates the moment with eager enthusiasm when it’s time to invite family and friends to their wedding. But when it comes to filling up your guest list, you’re overwhelmed with choices because there are so many people you wish to have by your side on your wedding day.

Read some useful tips on how to organise your guest list that is filled with much love and friends!

1.)  Talk it Out. It’s essentially important to reach an agreement with your partner (and sometimes family) – are you looking at a big celebration with more than 300 guests or an intimate wedding with only close family and friends? Some girls dream of a grand wedding while some guys prefer a simple celebration instead. So discuss this together and voice any concerns so that both of you can reach a comfortable decision. If you’re looking to trim your wedding guest count, consider the following invitation guidelines:

  •  Apart from your close family members, you can also invite friends who have been in contact with you during the past year.
  • It’s not mandatory to invite couples whose weddings you’ve attended but aren’t close to anymore. They probably had to make the same decision when they were preparing for theirs.
  • Office pals make great buddies. But there’s no need to invite everyone, just those whom you’re close with. 
  • If you’re still sitting on fences, base your choices on this simple quote: “I want to be surrounded by the people whom I love and love me as well, on my wedding day”

2.)  The VIP invites Start listing the important invites first – your family and closest friends, the names that pop right out of your head at the first thought. From here, you can get a good gauge of how many remaining possible seats are left.

3.)  A Timely Surprise Another form of etiquette brides should be aware of – don’t personally inform others out of your circle of buddies about your wedding until you’ve confirmed the date, location and other wedding details . This helps a lot if as there’s bound to be changes along the way and you don’t want to keep informing guests about amendments. Try to keep it on the low and once everything’s settled, announce away!

4.)  Prep Early Before arranging any wedding related matters, preparing a guest list should always be the first item off your to-do list, to avoid confusion, keep either a softcopy of the draft (we recommend using an Excel worksheet) or note them down in your little white book of wedding notes. Note down the number of guests, their addresses, and other contact details as you going along; you will need these information for mailing out invitations and thank you notes. Managing your list this way would allow you to add or remove names easily and also helps keep things organised.

5.)  Back Ups List A (you can call it whatever you want) is your main guest list while List B acts like a waiting list with names (in order of importance) of those whom you would like to invite if your initial guests can’t make it. There’s no need to fret because it’s safe to assume that 10–20% of your guests might not be able attend your celebration. From there, you could bring over names from List B to your main guest list. However, don’t delay planning List B because no one likes to be invited at the last minute.

6.)  Ready To Go Try your best to send out your invites 2 to 3 months before the wedding. While you receive declines from List A, you can start mailing out invites from List B as well. This stretch of period also provides time for your guests to search for suitable attire for your wedding or even tailor-made one to fit your wedding theme! However, if essential information such as the venue, programme list or dress code aren’t confirmed yet, consider sending a Save–the-Date Card first. This useful card informs your guests to keep that particular date free before the main invitation with the full details arrives.

7.)  Avoiding Wedding Crashes Sometimes people squeeze extra names in the RSVP despite the invite being intentionally meant only for the recipient. To avoid this mishap, include the full names of the invited guest and a line or a tick box after for them to indicate their attendance. The printed names provide your intended guests no reason to add more guests to your lists. If they do ask, explain graciously to them about your seating arrangements.

8.)  Are Children Invited? Don’t feel that you’ve got to open your wedding to the entire extended family of your guests. Although it may seem tough to exclude, it’s perfectly fine only to invite children who are part of your or your partner’s close family friends. If you do have any requests to bring children along, explain your invite constraints to them. Alternatively, if you’re comfortable with children at your wedding, have the words “and family” on the invitation envelope to immediately make your preference known.

9.)  What About The Help? Some families request for maids to be invited as well in order to look after the kids. When this happens, consider if you’ve enough seats to accommodate them. Alternatively, if there are more than 5 children present at your wedding, get resourceful and provide a baby-sitter for these families. This is a great chance for your family members to help out too! You can request for a couple of older cousins who can take on the responsibility of looking after children to hold the job. They can be seated together at a corner with games and a special children’s menu. With this feasible option, instead of the maid attending, parents can be informed that an extra help will be at the wedding to care for their kids.

10.) Your Parents’ Guests.  Both your parents would want to share the joys of the wedding with their friends too and it’s only fitting to accommodate their wishes. If both of you are undertaking most of the expenses, discuss with them about your plans and ask them how many friends would they like to invite and talk about the seating availabilities together.

Signed, Sealed and Delivered Finally!

 

 

 

Quoted from extraordinary.com.sg

Wedding Napkin Fold

Time to save-up some money? Decide what type of napkin fold you like, enquiry to your venue coordinator and request them to do it for you!

You might not realize it, but wedding napkins are an important part of your wedding reception’s overall look and feel. There are a lot more options and decisions to be made in regard to your wedding napkins than you might think, so consider some of the following ideas when planning out your wedding reception tables.

Impress your guests with fancy wedding napkin folds!

Wedding with a Theme

Many couples know that they want a particular kind of wedding, but don’t know where to start, or how to incorporate that theme into their wedding.

Interesting fact is it was back in United States where couples are always want to personalize their wedding, but guess what? Recently it was reported that many couples in China also wanting a one-of-a-kind wedding that personalized only for them.

One of the bride’s comment is:

“We had prepared for the ceremony one year in advance,” she says. “It was an occasion of a lifetime and I did not want any regrets.”

To stand out or simply be different: That is what most Chinese couples nowadays aim for on their big day, a spillover, perhaps, from their everyday competitive urban lifestyle.

So what’s your ideal wish for your journey with your partner?

What kind of shoes to match my cheongsam?

Now I’m pondering around… What kind of shoes I shoud wear to match my cheongsam which I’m going to where during my tea ceremony on my wedding day.

I’ve selected my traditional costume as cheongsam – long one – red colour. I use this dress as one of my photo shot dress as well. But during my PS, i just use a normal silver colour high heel, but for the actual day, I’m quiet hesitant to wear this…. It may looks too contradictive and also, I’m not really a fans of high heel shoes, so knowing I’ll be keep on standing and walking around during the tea ceremony (FYI, our tea ceremony will be held in 3 different venues), I might as well drop the idea of I’ll be hanging there running around with high heels…

One of the definition about cheongsam that I quoted from some article:

The Qipao / Cheongsam can display all women’s modesty, softness and beauty. Like Chinese women’s temperament, the Qipao / Cheongsam is elegant and gentle, its long-standing elegance and serenity makes wearers fascinating. Mature women in Qipao / Cheongsam can display their graceful refined manner. A Qipao / Cheongsam almost varies with a woman’s figure.

Most of the picture that I can found is matching a formal high heels with the cheongsam…. Hmpphh….. Personally I’m thinking to find those identical ballet shoes look alike to match with my cheongsam… I’m running out of time tho @_@ Any idea please? 🙂

DIY Wedding Projects: Ring Pillow

I totally forgot to post about my another DIY project: Ring Pillow. But however, the pictures that I’m going to show are slightly different with the actual one, coz these pics were taken before I’ve added the final touch on the 4-sides of the pillow, but well, I guess I’ll let it to be uncover on the actual day itself 🙂

Front view

 

Side view

Again, it matches with our blue theme 🙂

Wedding DIY Projects: Food & Dessert Name Tag

Some of you may think, why am I doing all the things (even to the tiniest details) on my own? Is wedding really such a big event until it deserves all your time and money at one point of time?

Again, this question will have to come back to each individual for the answer, coz there’s no right or wrong asnwer.

For me, wedding is the moment which I can really give my 100% personal touch into it. It’s my own personal event, and I definitely want to give the best of me into it! It’s not about the luxury or how grand it is… What I really want is to share with my guests (esp with myself) that this is it… This is us…. Whatever they find around the events are stuffs which are personalised by us… They can feel the warmness coming out from the decor.. Pieces by pieces, but it will make the overall impact that amused us one day…

How about budget then? This is the most important issue I would say. Honestly speaking, I don’t really have the freedom to really get what I want for this wedding.. Partly because we have to raise the fund on our own (since we don’t want to burden our family) and also most of our cash had gone to the house purchase… Still, I’m trying my best to consistenly find the best deal or replacement for those items which I think still replaceable…. Therefore, for those couple who have the budget for this big event of your life, be grateful and make sure your budget don’t go wasted! There are so many things you can do for your wedding, make it different, coz it represents your personality! If you have time, always plan everything early or hire someone that you are really sure this person will be able to rely on, and the most important: know what you want and how to make it come true!

Without further delay, this is my latest DIY projects:

These cute name tags are meant for my lunch reception after the holy matrimony session at Armenian Church. Each of them will lean on the mini canvas stand. The design itself still carry the trademark of our other DIY projects, but it comes with a cheerful touch rather than a solemn kind of feeling. I hope you all like it as much as Jon and I like it!

Wedding Photography & Videography

Wedding Photography

Professional wedding photographers range anywhere from $800 – $5,000+ in price. It would be in your best interest to ask all the questions you can to make sure you get your moneys worth. When you’ve chosen a couple potential wedding photographers, make the final decision based on the answers the photographers provide to your questions. Asking questions will benefit not only you, the bride, but the wedding photographer as well. He will be able to get a feel for what you expect and what is most important to you.

Here’s a list of questions you can  consider to ask your wedding photographer. Make sure you make known your needs and wants to the wedding photographer. Remember also that the wedding photographer has a lot more experience and he may be able to provide some of his own suggestions to make your wedding photos a success.

  • What is your photography style like?
  • Do you prefer formal portraits, candids, or a combination?
  • Can we see a portfolio of your work?
  • What are your package options?
  • How many shots will you take?
  • How many proofs will we receive? In what form will we receive the proofs? Do we get to keep the proofs?
  • How many albums are included in the package cost?
  • How much for additional albums?
  • How many shots in each album? What size will the photos be in the albums?
  • Can we add extra pages to the album? How much?
  • Do we get any choice of albums, page design and borders?
  • Can we see the album choices?
  • Is there an extra fee to have our names and wedding date printed on the cover?
  • Do you retouch images?
  • Do you bring backup equipment?
  • Did you shoot any weddings at our site before? If not, are you willing to come out and look for shot locations?
  • Will there be more than one photographer?
  • Will you have any assitants?
  • If you get ill, who will shoot our wedding?
  • How long after the wedding will we get our proofs? How long after we choose our photos will we receive the prints/albums?
  • How much deposit is required? When is the balance due? Do you have a cancellation policy?

Wedding Videography

Another popular question among couples is “Should we get a videographer?”

Many brides opt out of having a professional videographer to save money. Some consider having their friend or family member record it with their camcorder and although they may do a good job, you may find that a lot of the little details you were hoping to catch are missing. Remember that you can’t expect that your wedding guest will be there to videotape every special moment because after all they are there to have fun and join in the celebration. And although it can save you money, it is another great way to preserve the memory of your wedding and it becomes even better when it has been done professionally with good audio and artistic quality. The reality is that nothing compares to a professionally done wedding video. The professional wedding videographers have vast training, experience, and the right equipment. A professionally composed wedding video can convey the atmosphere of the whole wedding. The voices of loved ones and the laughter. A wedding video will be a great memory to look back on not just for you but also your children.

Here are some vendors which are quite wellknown for their work:

 

Wedding Desserts Corner

Some of you may know that I’m trying to get a driving license in Singapore, since I couldn’t convert myIndonesian driving license directly due to the time constraint… And guess what? My Basic Theory Test is scheduled on May 30th!!! Which is only 3-days away from our wedding day!!! Sigh……… Hopefully I can pass it once for all… No re-take pls!!! *Cross my fingers*

Ok, enough about myself. Today I want to write about Wedding Desserts Corner.

Desserts corner is one of the item from 2010 wedding trends. One thing that I know is that no one will turn down delicious desserts and it is also a great conversation piece. Couples may provide their own candy and cute containers such as paper bags with their monograms, clear plastic bags with thank you stickers for their guests to fill up with their favorite candy. The most important thing to remember is that this is your wedding day. You can add any personal touches you like and that also includes your favorite desserts and special treats!

 

 

They are just simply irressistable and adorable, aren’t they ??!!!

The choices of the items can be varies, start from cake, mini pastry, chocolate bars, sweets even ice cream! But again, it depends on what’s your budget! Remember that after all, it’s just a celebration, don’t let it burn your pocket! Be wise in planning ^^

The Meaning of Unity Candle

The Unity Candle has found its way into the Christian Wedding Ceremony over the past thirty to forty years. 

The two distinct flames represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As they light the unity candle together and extinguish their own taper candles, the flames from the individual candles now burn as one. This symbolizes the merging of two individual lives into one.
 
Now they are no longer two persons but one, united in marriage, sharing a new life together, and committed to each other. Your two lives joined in dependence and growing maturity. Your plans will be mutual, your joys and sorrows will be shared alike.  
 
There’re different ways on how you want to decorate your Unity Candle. Starting from the simplest one ’til those which is more elaborate with the flower arrangement touch.